Originally, I had the intention of seeing the Lars Von Trier film, Nymphomania for several reasons, the first one being after watching all his previous films that brought me interest to watch the next one that had yet to be released. I also had the assumption that it would be one of those films that diagnoses you with the problem of the main character’s, in this case being a sex addict. I illustrated rhetorics such as, “Do you think of sex all the time, even during church? How often do you masturbate to porn? Do you find yourself wet, sitting in your office at work while staring at the blank computer screen?” It was one of those assumptions that would leave you to a conclusion as you come out of the theatre and think, “Holy shit, I have an addiction” , when actually my conclusion of this film was far from it.
I’m too lazy to explain the film so here’s an excerpt from the New Yorker:
"Joe’s precocious genital consciousness led her to follow the lead of a high-school friend, called B (Sophie Kennedy Clark), in a game of sexual conquests aboard a train. (Young-adult Joe is played by Stacy Martin.) In her independent life, Joe often took as many as ten lovers in a single night. Some of them are young, some old; some handsome, some plain; some fit, some flabby; some stylish, some lumpish. And if there’s any doubt of their variety, a montage of lovers’ genitals, seen in close-up, makes the point: Joe doesn’t pursue a parade of groomed beauties or well-endowed studs, she has sex with a seemingly representative slice of the male demographic. And Joe, apparently, is not alone—she’s only one member of a group that formed in school, a secret sect of young women, or, as B called it, a “little flock,” that chants “mea vulva, mea maxima vulva,” and repudiates love in the sole pursuit of sex.
This indiscriminacy—the choice of partners not by beauty, charm, or charisma but on the basis of what Joe calls “morphological studies”—is the key to the movie’s pitch. Von Trier is the best advertising person in the movie business, and he has come up with a movie that is an ingenious commercial for itself. The average male art-house viewer emerges from the first part of Volume I filled with the pleasant idea that there are young women out there—young, pretty, sleek, and determined—who will suck him off in a random train compartment even though he’s forty, married, and faithful, or sleep with him on a regular basis despite his bald pate, bad clothing, bland affect, and blubbery gut. The only stumbling block is love. Love, as detailed by Joe and as shown in a variety of episodes throughout the film, is the curse that gets in the way of pleasure. ”
Although they describe Joe the main character as a “young adult” I saw her as a 15 year old minor whoring herself to older married men to win a bag of candy on a bet she made with her high school friend who called this a “game” which I found very, disturbing. As a woman, I naturally found myself hating the character and the film at times because of Joe’s actions which truly depicts the symptoms of a nymphomaniac- they are different than normal people in that they perform sex not for pleasure, but as a selfish act to gain attention from anyone to fufill his or her impulse of sexual behavior versus normal people who engage in sexual behavior, primarily with another person who they have feelings for, monogamously. There’s a fine line between loving sex and having lots of it whether its with the same person or not out of intimacy, and then there’s just being a whore.
It was hard to differentiate Joe, from being a promiscuous adolescent using her good looks for attention By technical definition a whore is a prostitute who gets paid but I am loosely using this term as someone who has sex with anyone that comes their way- a slut. And that’s how I saw the character Joe. Whenever I encounter slut behavior, she tends to have self esteem issues and likes to keep herself on check by putting out on any social media platform with a selfie that she’s there with open arms, or legs in this case. There’s a connection between this film and the justification of women’s behavior in modern society of diagnosing themselves with a “problem”. But I do not want to get in a tangent here, this is merely about the movie’s criticism (mine).
I have not seen Volume 2 yet, but based on the New Yorker’s reviews, Joe’s actions from adolescence come back to beat her in the ass- literally.
Females seem to be the subject of his films (Lars Von Trier). I don’t think Lars Von Trier had the intention of stating that such behavior is wrong but it does reflect in the film, sort of. The sex scenes are not the enjoyable type that the audience would get turned on by, very mechanical movements and unattractive to watch a very thin, almost anorexic- model/ looking actress naked, watching the film as a woman with self respect who shuns upon sexual objects on the screen. As for my boyfriend who also happened to watch it with me, it was hard to tell whether or not the general male audience would get turned on by this film. After watching the film, I felt that it was my duty to inform my boyfriend that not all women are nymphomaniacs like Joe, and that its wrong to have sex with minors. My partner got upset because he thought I was making a generalization of women’s behavior and men’s actions based on the film, when this film clearly depicts a young woman with a problem. There’s scene where Joe tries to seduce a married man on the train who’s on his way to go home and have sex with his ovulating wife so that they can have children. He rejects Joe the first time and says’ “No” after several weak times of saying no, Joe unzips his pants and sucks his dick. He could have clearly walked away from this situation, but it clearly didn’t stop him from letting an underage girl suck his penis.
Ultimately the film made me uncomfortable at times, the whole time I thought to myself: this is so wrong why isn’t anyone scoffing in the theatre but me, I’m surprised that the film hasn’t been covered by Jezebel and turned it into a whole feminist issue of precautioning men of the messages they get from watching films like this and what kind of behavior it leads to.
I am aware that this is a European film and maybe European culture sees underage girls more maturely, but when I see an American minor such as my 15 year old cousin, I most certainly don’t see an anxiously nymph waiting to unleash herself to older men like Joe who has a “problem”. Can they wait until their 18 at least for crying out loud? My maternal instinct is coming out, its something my mother would say and I am slowly evolving into a carbon copy of her who will tell me 15 years later when I have kids: I told you so.
My only precaution here is that if you encounter a person with nymphomaniac disorder, don’t have sex with them you are only making their addiction worse, and don’t ever joke about being a nymphomaniac it will only conclude that you are having sexual behaviors with everyone like a whore does only you don’t get paid like one and you might wake up in a train wreck- figuratively speaking.
Every year thousands of baristas compete to see who can make the world’s best coffee. They have 15 minutes to make 12 drinks — to make an impact. It’s like the Olympics of the coffee world.
If you are a coffee lover and are intrigued by the industry, this one’s definitely worth watching, but they need a little funding. If they meet their goal, contributors will receive rewards like t-shirts, posters, coffee mugs, a dvd and of course, free coffee!!!!
I’m getting sick and tired of these women showing comfort in getting nude for an article spread or billboard and claim “respect for women”, no not really you’re attracting for the wrong reason and validate men’s expectation of sexuality because they can’t get their eyes off your tits. If you have the intention of showing the world your naked body just because you want to that’s fine, but don’t try to call out on some feminist bullshit or “respect me”, put your clothes back on and take action with an actual movement that will have a positive reaction towards society without getting a male reader a hard on.
When I graduated from college in the winter of 2012, I thought a lot would change in two years. I’ll be 24 in 2014, and I don’t feel a lot has changed. Time flies, but when I look at where I am today, its not certainly where I want to be.
This is life, but you have to keep playing the game, work hard and keep doing what your doing even though it doesn’t make sense and you feel like you’re not getting anywhere.
Why are people getting upset over Katy Perry’s Performance? It’s what happens when you get Asian fever. People get it all the time when they are exposed to that culture. I got it when I was 12 after picking up a comic of the Peach Girls Anime series and when my friend invited me over to try her mom’s kimchi for the first time (All said in humor, partially true) .
But ya’ll don’t complain when a white male has asian fever…
When a white girl dresses up as a geisha all ya’ll suddenly become feminists. The history of a woman’s role in Asian culture was all about pleasing her spouse, I sure do hope that we focus on that alarming issue than a stupid performance.
Her performance sexualized the image of a Geisha? Have you looked at the history of Geishas? That performance wasn’t even sexual…
I’m so confused,
It was just a performance guys, and it was Katy Perry, yes she looked kinda stupid but it didn’t seem racist, do we even like her music, who cares!?!?!?
Why did I bob my hair? For several reasons. I did it because I wanted to, for one thing; because I found it easier to take care of; because I thought it more becoming; and because I felt freer without long, entangling tresses. But above and beyond these and several other reasons I had my hair cut short because, to me, it typiﬁed a progressive step, in keeping with the inner spirit that animates my whole existence. In one way, whether I wear my hair short or not is of little importance. But viewed in another way, bobbed hair is not just a trivial, independent act of hair-dressing separate and apart from my life itself. It is part and parcel of life—one of the myriad things which by themselves may apparently mean nothing, but which in the aggregate help to form that particular complexity of expression which is myself. This sounds a bit cryptic; but let me elucidate a little. Whether we know it or not, every single thing we do has a relationship to our lives as a whole, for the simple reason that what we do is the expression of what we think—consciously or unconsciously. You may say that it matters very little whether a woman wears her hair long or has it cut short, but that is really not true.
"Regardless of split ends or whether the cut suits the shape of her face, long hair has come to signify many of the qualities that a man looks for in a mate. His reaction is primeval. Evolutionary psychologists believe that a head of long, healthy hair has been a basic indicator of a woman’s well-being since the dawn of mankind. Cave paintings celebrated long-haired women - the longer the hair the more fertile and, therefore, desirable she was - and nothing had changed when Botticelli painted the Birth of Venus, complete with those flowing locks, millennia later. These days you need only watch a shampoo commercial to see that long hair is still shorthand for sexual attractiveness. Glossy, shoulder-length tresses are tossed from side to side as the ultimate sign of a woman at her peak….Our hair has always played a major part in the sexual drama of life. Longer hair is associated with youth perhaps because as young girls we usually wear our hair long, and it is generally the case that when women become mothers they cut their hair for the sake of practicality, continuing to wear it shorter and shorter as they get older. This, of course, coincides with a gradual falling away of libido and sexual activity. While long hair appears to indicate to the male brain a more submissive and available woman, in simple terms it also distinguishes women from men in appearance. That’s why it is such a powerful symbol of femininity and why, conversely, if a woman even subconsciously feels she is losing interest in sex, she will cut her hair….if a woman is looking for a man, she’s not going to cut her hair off. It’s a fact that long hair has a broader appeal to the opposite sex - I’d say nine out of ten men prefer long hair to short - which means long-haired ladies are more likely to catch a guy’s eye. It’s no surprise, then, that most of the women that come to my salon wanting a drastic chop are in a stable relationship. They’re not looking to attract a man. But just like men, I think women in general believe long hair is flirtier and sexier than short….In the wake of the French Revolution, modish English women adopted cropped styles…Similarly, in the Roaring Twenties and Swinging Sixties, women bobbed their hair to indicate that they were pleasing themselves rather than their menfolk.
What’s interesting to note, however, is that whenever a trend for cropped hair has taken hold, it has been followed closely by a return to the fashion for long locks. Why? Well, whatever the empowerment of going short, its historical associations remain negative. “
I think this is self explanatory. Were’ nothing without our hair!!!!!